I think all guys would generally agree: we tend to be single-minded in what we’re doing and focus on meeting one objective at a time. 5) If I’m with another girl (note: If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous, I never cheat, but if not dating around is fair game.) In your situation, it sounds like this guy will try to make plans and then when it gets complicated, or it seems like it isn’t going to happen, he directs his attention elsewhere and doesn’t feel the need to text further (again it comes down to the concept of a man’s tendency to single-mindedly fixate on fulfilling an objective or reaching a goal).
Rather, I’m recommending that you change how you think about things and, therefore, the needy behaviors and ways of acting naturally disappear. It’s believing that you “need” the other person to act a certain way, be a certain way, do specific things or say specific things… There’s nothing wrong with having a preference for what you want and only settling for what you want. The problem with the needy mindset is that when you’re not getting what you want, you have a strong negative reaction because you think of his specific behavior as something you “need” in order to be OK… So bear in mind that this response to you is from the context that you’ve repeatedly brought this up as an issue and there’s been no change in his behavior.
The more of an effort he puts into seeing you or doing things for you, the more invested in you he’ll become.
This is why being accommodating to bad behavior is actually harmful to creating a bond with the guy in the beginning.
I don’t understand…we will be texting back and forth for a few, then nothing…air silence! I would say that we guys prefer text because it makes it easier to avoid talking to someone when we don’t feel like it.
Speaking for myself, there have been times when I’ve bailed on responding to a text simply because I’m busy with something else.